This information has been adapted from Michael Arloski’s very popular and respected book in the wellness industry, “Wellness Coaching for Lasting Lifestyle Change”.
Wellness can be overwhelming. With all the incredible amounts of information available in books, on-line and on TV, why are we getting fatter instead of fitter and more depressed rather than more fulfilled?
It’s not the amount of information we accumulate, it’s the amount of that information we apply that makes the difference. So what is the hang up? Why can’t or why won’t people just do what they need to do to be well? This is a question that doctors, personal trainers, nutritionist and just about every other medical professional asks himself/herself.
Let’s take a look at what it means to be truly healthy; body, soul and spirit. There are ten principles that keep showing up over the last twenty years or so that have been identified as the primary principles of wellness.
1. Wellness has to be addressed as a whole. Without addressing the whole person and their complete lifestyle will ultimately fail because it is incomplete. By choosing to focus on only the elements of wellness you enjoy or like and ignoring the rest will be ineffective and ultimately lead to frustration and be unfulfilling.
2. You have to love yourself enough to change. You need to care enough about you to take a real look at your life, choose to make the changes that are necessary and accept the support and help that others can give you. Get rid of the garbage in your life. Take the time to do some introspection to find what is holding you back from feeling good about yourself and clear them out. Take time to be proud of your achievements.
3. You become like those you surround yourself with. Are you surrounded by those who make you feel safe, accepted, important and loved or those who don’t? Do they encourage you to grow or are they threatened by it? Unless you have a very strong sense of self you will tend to follow your peers. Positive peer health norms encourage wellness lifestyle changes. Surround yourself with positive people.
4. Open up your awareness to everything that is going on around you. Do not live life in a trance. Make conscious choices. Take responsibility for your choices, good or bad. Consciously choose to improve your health, relationships, life-goals and living your life to the max!
5. Take time to connect; with nature, with others, with God, and with yourself. Connection grounds us. By connecting, we grow our love for that which we’ve connected with. We are more peaceful, hopeful and fulfilled.
6. We are ultimately responsible for our health. We may be prone to particular genetic risks, toxic environments and be in an unhappy relationship but our own personal emotional and lifestyle choices determine our health and well-being more than anything else. No more blame game. No more pouting over the past. No matter what has happened to us, or is happening to us, we have the power to make the changes necessary to change it all. This is empowerment and a very freeing realization once you internalize it and start living it.
7. A new skill learned increases our self-confidence, autonomy and a bring about a lessening of fear in our lives. By developing care for ourself on all levels of wellness, we will grow and fulfill our destiny. Learning a new skill, gaining information and tools to enhance our life, becoming more competent in our career choice, etc.; all increase our self-respect and self-confidence. It is not only important for us to learn these skills but to teach them to the next generation as well.
8. Time by yourself is as important as time with others. We need time to reflect, ask ourselves the hard questions, relax, think about the direction of our life, and get to know ourselves better. Learn to love being with you! Some like to journal, read, meditate, pray, dance, walk in the woods, etc. Anywhere alone is good.
9. Wellness does not happen all at once and you don’t have to do it all or be perfect to be well. It is a process. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to someone else trying to be well. Try to identify addictive behaviors and deal with them.
10. Have fun! We all need to play and not take ourselves (and wellness) so seriously. Live to love and love to live! Find out what makes you happy and do it (as long as it’s legal, moral and ethical). 🙂
These are only 10 principles. You may have others that are important to you.
Find them, embrace them, live them!
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